Loving Yourself
It is actually very difficult for a person to love and like himself because the beast inside us is insatiable. If we do three, he’ll want five more. Such is the nature of man, but if it were not so, we would all sit hand in hand. Nature probably knows these things better than any of us. So how can we poor people please ourselves?
First of all, let’s remind ourselves often that we are not bionic people and that we cannot overcome everything due to our nature. Let’s know our mistakes and shortcomings, but let’s tolerate ourselves. Let’s tolerate it without laziness. Actually, there is a lion inside all of us, that is, he is an ideal person we always wanted to be but could never be.
Unless we look like him, we despise ourselves. This is the grumpy lion that constantly bites, prods, and annoys us, only to stop bothering us for a while when we’re in love. Because love is so big that it even takes the place where the lion sleeps. The feeling you call love is disloyal, it consumes itself quickly. Moreover, if we are the ones who are abandoned, the lion appears again, a little more grown and wild.
That’s when it starts hitting again, to despise us more and more every day, to humiliate us.
What we have to do is to understand why we are so sad and devastated, to make a correct diagnosis and to start treatment as soon as possible. So we have to realize quickly that what upsets us so much is not just being abandoned, but being a little further away from our ideals. We don’t have a chance to catch the ideal person we dream of right away, but we should applaud every step we take in this regard and praise ourselves as much as we humiliate ourselves.
The way all this takes us must be to grow a little more, to develop and mature ourselves a little more. So, let’s roll up our sleeves and set out within the framework of the possibilities that life offers us. Everything we have now is very valuable on this road. If we are students, let’s push our limits in this regard, let’s get the best grades we can.
If we are working, let’s be the most popular employee. Let’s try to increase our knowledge and good manners in every subject. That’s when life will start to like us. When we like life, we start to like and love ourselves.
Let’s have realistic expectations of ourselves. Instead of saying amen to the prayer that will not happen, let’s set out with what we can do. As you master this job, you will see that it will be easier to love, to be loved and to succeed. Let’s listen to our inner voice from time to time.
Let us not forget that God entrusted us with sending us into this world. Let’s not betray the safety. Well, let’s take care of ourselves.
Dr. Gulseren Budayicioglu
Uzman Bilgisi
Dr. Gülseren BUDAYICIOĞLU
Merkez Başkanı, Psikiyatrist
- Üniversite : Ankara Üniversitesi, Tıp Fakültesi
- Uzmanlık : Hacettepe Üniversitesi, Tıp Fakültesi, Ruh Sağlığı ve Hastalıkları Anabilim Dalı, Psikiyatri Uzmanlık Eğitimi
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