Emotional suffering; Although it is not a visible and tangible factor, it can be described as the emotional state that is experienced, that causes serious discomfort to the individual, and that the person has difficulty in describing. When describing this feeling, the person mostly tells it through his/her body. That is, “it’s such a pain…” it burns me; “my heart aches”; This emotional state is tried to be expressed with expressions such as “I’m bleeding” and so on. These are expressions that do not have a concrete place in our minds, but everyone understands what that “painful” state is, one way or another, since they have experienced similar events at least once in their life.
One of the situations in which we experience this state of anguish is “LOVE”. Of course, philosophers, academics and those working in the field have defined love differently. When we look at all of these definitions, we can say that, in summary, love is the desire (passion) felt to be with “that person” that we “idealize” excessively in our minds. After this passion, the feeling of emptiness and anguish experienced in the absence or loss of the person who is the target of love is the emotional state that constitutes the subject of this article.
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Why is the pain of love felt?
Desiring excessively for what we don’t have and not considering the possibility of not having it at all results in us feeling bitter when things don’t turn out the way we want, no matter what. If we evaluate it over the definition of love we have made above, we feel the same anguish when we are unable to be with that person whom we idealize in our minds and whom we say “cannot be like him”, or not being able to be with the desired form, or losing. The “passion for being together”, which is the definition of love, already includes a possible sense of anguish. We can say that suffering is in the nature of love if the scenario does not turn out as desired.
Will the pain of love go away? how does it go?
Like so many things in life, love has billed you with a sense of pain because you didn’t consider the different possibilities. Remember, you called this feeling, so it will accompany you for a while. If you host your guest calmly, you will not turn the agony you are already in into an even more painful process. In classical terms, this pain will pass like any pain. Give time to the pain and to yourself. Stay away from photos that will remind you of the memories of the person you love over and over, and social networking sites where you can follow them. Try to concentrate on your life, try to focus on your daily work, social life, work life if any. Remember that your development process in life has not yet ended, so everything you have done in the past and planned to do in the future, that you want, that you dream of, still remains. Remember that the feeling of suffering you experience will fade away.
