Research shows that half of all marriages end within the first seven years.
Every family and couple goes through certain processes before, during, and after a divorce. In the months following separation or divorce, families experience a wide range of changes. On one hand, there is emotional turmoil; on the other, financial difficulties may arise. These developments also alter the family’s lifestyle. Since the separation is still recent, the minds of those affected are constantly occupied with it. Over time, this situation changes, but then individuals are faced with the reality of building a new life.
Divorce and remarriage trigger a series of complex changes that affect every function of the family. The first year after a divorce can be particularly difficult for adults. Significant psychological issues are observed in two-thirds of divorced women and one-third of divorced men.
An unwanted or contentious divorce can push an adult back to a previous developmental stage or lead to unexpected behaviors. Some adults may become completely helpless and dependent on others, including their children, for care. Family roles may shift; children may assume parental responsibilities and become confidants. As a result, distorted development in children and a false understanding of reality acquired through parental influence can emerge.
Immediately following separation or divorce, individuals tend to choose one of two social patterns: isolating themselves from others or engaging in an extraordinary social life. Some people do not acknowledge the unhappiness or anger they feel regarding the divorce. They may claim to adapt easily and have created a perfect life for themselves. While engaging in various activities can be beneficial, if these are done to avoid other problems and prevent attention to one’s own or loved ones’ needs, it only postpones depression temporarily. Eventually, unresolved issues lead to inevitable emotional collapse.