According to the researches, the marriage rate in Turkey has decreased by ten percent in the last year. Years ago, when people’s biggest dreams were to get married, have a family and have children, how did we become so afraid of getting married?
Do you ever think about the courage in arranged marriages in the past? People who don’t know each other at all, don’t share anything, maybe have nothing in common… How is it that we can live a happy and peaceful life for life, but we are so afraid of going to the end with the people we choose.
We search for the right person for years. Maybe you had many loves, you were broken and sad. Then you consoled yourself saying ‘he was not the right person for me’. Maybe you haven’t experienced love yet and you said to those who asked, “I haven’t met the right person yet”. You’ve spent years thinking that there is the perfect right person out there.
That right person whom strangers call ‘The One’ is the right person we have dreamed of since our childhood… We are so afraid when it gets serious that the right person we think we have found is wrong. At the end of the day, when what we expect from a relationship is only happiness, what has become a difficult and fearful test? Is it honesty or loyalty, a good career or financial strength, or our physical traits?
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Have you really never lied?
Have you ever cheated?
Do you have a good career and financial strength?
What about your weight, is your height ideal?
Look at the people you call your perfect friend, mom or dad. Did it ever upset, offend, or disappoint you?
The truth is; The person you are looking for is the person you most desire to be. It’s a threat that exposes our relationship flaws.
Relationships in love are like an empty box. You can’t get back what you didn’t put in it. No one else can give us what we don’t have ourselves. The way to find the right person is to face the not-true self that we are afraid of, rather than the effort and fear of covering our own shortcomings by burdening him with the responsibility of being right, or think again. Be sure that there are equally right people, happiness and luck in the universe for all of us. Instead of being afraid to marry this person, perhaps one question is perhaps: “who is my real self and all my flaws, with his real self and flaws?”
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Psk. Nida DAL İDİKUT
