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Borderline personality disorder; It is a psychiatric disorder that can cause problems in one’s social relations, thoughts, feelings and behaviors. The word ‘borderline’ means ‘on the border’. This disorder usually appears in adolescence or young adulthood. Borderline personality disorder usually manifests itself with fluctuations in the person’s emotions and behaviors towards the individuals around them. In this case, changes occur in the way the person perceives the events. Although the prevalence of this disease in the community is known to be 2-3%, it is more common in women than in men.

Genetic and environmental factors play a role in the emergence of borderline personality disorder. In addition to genetic predisposition, life-long challenging experiences (such as trauma) may be effective in the development of borderline personality disorder.

What are the symptoms that can be seen in people with borderline personality disorder?

People with borderline personality disorder may experience sudden changes in their mood. The person may frequently question his own life, personality traits or roles in life and may have difficulty in determination. Along with these symptoms, a person’s thoughts, beliefs, values, or interests may change frequently and quickly. In addition, frequent fluctuations and impulsive (uncontrollable) behaviors can be seen in the thoughts and feelings of the person about his relationships with the people around him. Situations such as removing a loved one from his life suddenly, harboring hostility, distrust or suspicion may arise. In the light of these symptoms, it may be possible for the person to not be able to provide stability in their social relationships, not to establish sincere or sincere relationships, and to exhibit compelling attitudes in their ongoing relationships.

Borderline personality disorder can cause the person to exert intense effort as a result of feeling the threat of abandonment in their relationships. Excessive glorification of a person or, on the contrary, excessive vilification behavior can be seen. In many areas (including self-harming behavior), impulsive behaviors, paranoid thoughts and difficulty in adapting can be seen. ‘Stress’ exists in almost every aspect of their lives and it is often difficult to control anger. Almost every emotion felt by borderline people is extreme and corrosive. Intense emotions often give way to a feeling of emptiness and uncontrollable anger. Changes in thought between good and bad occur frequently. This situation affects the people around, especially the border person. The need to control the thoughts and behaviors of those around them is dominant, so it becomes easier to know their own experiences in advance or to plan. Although they have serious concerns about abandonment, their ability to maintain the relationships they have established may be insufficient.

Can Borderline Personality Disorder Be Treated?

Treatments that can be applied in the presence of borderline personality disorder are drug therapy and psychotherapy. The thought, emotion, behavior and defense mechanisms of the person can be restructured. In addition, drug treatment is also prescribed to control emotional regulation and impulsive behaviors. A psychiatrist or psychologist should be consulted in case of obvious situations such as impulsive behaviors, emotional fluctuations, manipulative self-harming behaviors or suicide attempts, changing ideas, interests and social environment.

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What is psychotherapy?

Psychology, in its broadest definition, is known as ‘the science of human behavior and mental processes’. The point to be noted here is the word ‘science’. Although psychologists focus on behaviors and mental processes, they explain the underlying causes and results of these issues on a scientific basis. Although the concept of psychotherapy cannot be defined precisely, it can be mentioned as a process based on verbal interaction and psychotherapeutic relationship between two people. Aim; It is the elimination of problems caused by disorders in the cognitive, emotional or behavioral functions of one of the two people (client). Psychotherapy, which is a process based on understanding, speaking, thinking and relating; It can be shaped according to the needs of the client and the therapy school used.

The problems experienced by the person can be resolved with psychotherapy or counseling processes. The main differences between the two concepts are; duration and target. The counseling process targets a more specific problem and takes much less time than the psychotherapy process. Psychotherapy process; In addition to being long-term, it puts the person in the center and aims to raise awareness about the reasons and patterns underlying their own thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

What Does Getting Psychological Support Do for Me?

The field of psychology is not only for those who are experts in this field, but at a basic level; It is becoming a science that all individuals in society should have more or less knowledge of. The individual who has knowledge about the basic concepts and processes of psychology; better understand their own thoughts, feelings and behaviors. It is not like a detective to investigate the reason behind every behavior or every thought mentioned here. Such a pattern of thought can become tiring over time. The point to be emphasized here is an awareness process. become conscious; It is being aware of each of them while experiencing positive or negative life events that life brings to the individual, enjoying them, making plans and maintaining their own psychological strength. This means that a person can express himself better and use the most effective coping methods for himself in his work life, social relations, when he becomes a parent or when faced with difficult life events such as death, illness, accident.

In Which Situations / When Should I See a Psychologist?

Situations that may require psychological support may be encountered at every stage of life, but it would be wrong to talk about the ‘must have’ conditions in order to receive psychological support. On the other hand, there are situations where psychological support can be beneficial. For example, due to the problems that we can refer to as ‘progressive’ or ‘acute’, the person can receive psychological support. These problems are; anxiety, repetitive thoughts and behaviors, disturbing situations after a trauma, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, etc. can be listed. However, psychological support can be obtained due to long-standing, almost personality traits, but disturbing situations. These are inflexible thoughts and behaviors that cannot be structured according to situations and conditions, generally attributed to personality. For example, perfectionist thoughts can set an example for this.

In addition to the ones mentioned above, ‘existential’ problems in which the person is in search of a meaning about himself and his life are also seen as a situation that may require psychological support. Questions about life, living and being human, for which we seek answers, can perplex us at every stage of life. When we cannot find an answer that can convince us to these existential questions, we can feel emotionally bad and even empty. In such cases, the support of an expert is helpful.

Getting psychological support does not necessarily mean that there is a serious problem in one’s life. Apart from repetitive situations, the person may also want to get support from an expert in order to be able to become aware of his own cognitive and behavioral processes and to acquire the ability to evaluate the situation, condition, person and events in a holistic way with alternative thoughts. In some cases, it is also possible to go to a psychologist just to better understand, regulate, organize and functionalize the person himself, his thought processes and emotions. Our ability to regulate both emotions and behavior will improve day by day when we can explore and find the internal and external sources of our own behavior.

Functionality; The ability to think in accordance with the circumstances brings with it appropriate affect and likewise appropriate behavior. At some time in our life, we may think that we have lost our functionality and we may start to feel ‘weird’ or in a different position from all the people we know. At this point, it is useful to stay calm, to give ourselves time and to examine our intellectual and emotional processes together with a specialist psychologist.

In general, people; Thoughts such as “I’ll get over it” or “I don’t need anyone” and the fear of being labeled become the biggest barriers to going to a psychologist and seeking support. If there are differences in feelings, thoughts or behavior patterns compared to the usual situation, or if you feel bad emotionally, if the same complaints continue for a long time, you can go to a psychologist. In some cases, the chronicity of the problems experienced can lead to serious consequences. If the person feels himself in a dead end, he should be aware that the support of an expert can be useful.

Psychotherapy for all age groups throughout life; It is an effective treatment method. If the person is in search of support or help and feels ready, they can apply to a psychologist to solve any of their problems.

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Parents may be concerned about their school-age children from time to time for various reasons. In this case, extreme reactions may also occur in children. These reactions can be seen as a general decrease in motivation or the child’s self-pressure and perfectionism.

In any case, this situation, which may cause negative effects for the child, must be taken under control. For this, both experts can be consulted and special trainings prepared for parents can be used.

What Are the Various Factors Affecting School Success?

Children’s school success can vary depending on various reasons. The roles of parents have a great influence on the academic success of the child. With the correct behavior of the parents, the child should feel safe, be appreciated for their success, and at the same time be warned using appropriate language when they make mistakes.

Among the factors affecting children’s school success, there are also different factors other than parental behaviors. For example; The child’s own psychological problems, various situations at home, being dissatisfied with his teachers, social life at school, or various previous events can affect school success. It should not be forgotten that every problem has a solution. For this reason, the most appropriate environment for the child should be created.

What Causes Parental Worry?

Parental behaviors also have an important role in the factors that affect the success of the child at school. For this reason, there are some things that parents should do consciously. However, many parents succumb to their own anxiety. In such cases, it is necessary to determine the cause of the anxiety, and with the help of an expert, ways to cope with this anxiety should be investigated and it should be ensured that it can be brought under control.

Psychological disorders of parents may be one of the reasons for this anxiety. Apart from this, it may be a reason to expect the achievements that they cannot reach in their own lives from the child or to strive to reach a level as good as himself. Transferring the parent’s perfectionist attitudes to the child can be one of the most common sources of anxiety.

Anxiety in parents makes children uneasy. What should not be forgotten at this point is that parents can only undertake the guiding function, and besides, no matter how small, the child; It is the first and most important condition to accept that he is an ‘individual’ with his own personality, aspirations, potential and interests.

How Does Parental Worry Affect A Child’s School Success?

The role of parents in a child’s school life is quite large. For this reason, having an inconsistent, oppressive or overly relaxed attitude can affect a child’s school success. While the effect of the family on success is invaluable, any negative behavior on children can reduce the child’s academic success at school.

When children get an excessive and harsh reaction, their motivation to study may decrease. Moreover; When children are expected to be perfect and therefore pressured, psychological and physical disorders may occur by pushing themselves too much.

According to this, certain exam anxiety, being alienated from school and teachers, not working or working overtime in a way that harms oneself can be observed. The best scenario is that parents only help and encourage the child in the formation of the child’s own personality.

How Should School-Age Children Be Treated?

The answer to the question “How should school-age children be treated?” lies mainly in child psychology. From this point of view, it is very important to establish an unshakable order for children. All school and course activities need to be spread over a specific time.

It is necessary to communicate correctly with the child as long as the school continues, especially during exam times. In this sense, you should not shake the child’s self-confidence or injure his sense of self.

Finally, you should create a suitable study environment for the child, neither be completely uninterested in studying nor cause negative effects by being too busy. The keyword here would be “balance”.