A sense of belonging, ownership
The morning sun radiates light and sweet warmth with its rise. This light and warmth makes us watch the emergence of a magnificent work by fusing all the beauty of nature with each other. Nature moves in harmony with all its colors, no color excludes the other. They are all there to make each other look better. They work with all their might to create this magnificent painting.
By taking care of each other… They start the day in harmony.
This observation, this natural event gives me the feeling of belonging and ownership that I see as an indispensable part of life.
Belonging to a country, a city, a family, a school, or an association… A metaphor I use to start looking for an answer to the question of what is the sense of belonging, what is ownership…
It’s a metaphor I use to see what it’s like for individuals to feel like one of them, just as all the colors of nature are fused.
I think that there is a lot of sense of belonging in myself, and even this feeling, I realize now, is too much since my childhood.
When I go to boarding school, the fact that the stone and soil of my small town, which I come to every moment, that surrounds me with everything, catches my eye every moment, must be a sign of the strength of this feeling.
My friends always called me “Ünyeli” or “Treasurer”. In fact, one day, while I was wandering around Sakarya street in Ankara, there were fishermen on that street at that time, and someone behind me was calling “Ünyeli, Ünyeli”. I turned around wondering how they knew me, and no one was looking at me. When I looked around more carefully, I saw a case of anchovy on the fisherman’s counter with the words “Ünyeli” written on it.
It’s such a sense of belonging, feeling that you belong to that city, that family. Don’t be you… Identity…
You know, some people say that when I retire (just because of the weather, water or environmental conditions), I will settle in such and such a town.
I always question this decision myself. If these people do not have a city, a family, a group of friends they belong to, they can afford to leave them, go and settle in places they have no ties to, and live as a foreigner, a later person or persons throughout their lives.
I think about what they can give to a place where they do not develop a sense of belonging, apart from what they do for their individual lives.
This behavior, this way of thinking, can be one of the best examples of being able to act independently, perhaps freely. It can be a sign of being able to endure all the pros and cons of life alone.
This can sometimes be considered as a strength. I have nothing to say to such a thought. With these strengths, maybe they can be easily possessed, who knows…
Others work abroad for years, efforts consume years, and one day they return to the city they longed for, and they return to their hometown, will they embrace it as expected? Will they be able to see again that he belongs here, will they support him?
Whether you call it a sense of belonging, a sense of belonging, or a sense of ownership, whatever you may call it, it is a definition of identity and owning it is necessary for life.
If you are not taken care of, if they do not see what you want to do, what you want to give (even if your personal interests are not in question), then you start to think about the identity you have established so far and you will be hurt.
When people are alone, they can often feel powerless, hopeless and helpless in starting and finishing good works.
The main thing is a sense of identity, a continuing sense of belonging, ties, friendships and being able to work together. This unity is necessary for the change, renewal and development of a society, it is a sign of power. Success together gives people great pleasure, pleasure and satisfaction.
Starting from the moment they are born, children grow up feeling that they are born in a safe environment in the face of the consistent, orderly and continuity of the environment they live in, and that they belong here.
This feeling told him, “I too am reliable and valuable so that the things I need for my life are lovingly given to me, so I can hope that I can grow up healthy.” says.
It paves the way for the development of hope and the desire for growth and the feeling that it can enrich the world with its existence. Possession or being owned is a prerequisite for experiencing a sense of belonging. Adoption is also a prerequisite for clinging to life.
Being able to say “I belong to this country, this city, this family” creates a feeling of belonging, this country, this city, this family will take care of me and I have the power and ability to stand behind everything I want to do. Thus, you can safely walk through life and be productive and creative.
The qualified coexistence of life is seeing the richness of differences, creating satisfying sharing together, in other words, being able to live by seeing the unique beauties of life.
Such is the sense of belonging, of belonging, of being possessed. If it is fed, it will sprout; if it is not fed, it will wither.
If we want to add strength to our strength, if we want to grow and develop together, let’s enable the development of a sense of belonging, ownership and ownership, so that those living around us can reach their goals and we can create quality associations.
Uzman Bilgisi
Prof. Dr. Ayşe YALIN
Klinik Psikolog
- Üniversite : Hacettepe Üniversitesi, Sosyal ve İdari Bilimler Fakültesi, Psikoloji Bölümü
- Uzmanlık : Hacettepe Üniversitesi, Sosyal Bilimler Enstitüsü, Psikoloji Anabilim Dalı, Klinik Psikoloji Doktorası, Hacettepe Üniversitesi, Sosyal Bilimler Enstitüsü, Psikoloji Anabilim Dalı, Klinik Psikoloji Uzmanlığı
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